Whats your Why?
Last week I had a self discovery session at a seminar explaining how people feel success in different ways.
I am all about making sense of things. I need to understand how things work to feel successful. If I can’t figure it out, it constantly niggles in my mind and I feel like I have failed.
This explains why when people ask me to make a change to a project, I want to know why they want that change. They misunderstand my reaction as they have offended me but really I just need to understand the logic for the change otherwise it will bug me.
It also explains why I have a broad range of skills and why I am good with understanding processes then communicating how they work to others.
Naturally, I have been obsessing with trying to figure out the “Why” of everybody I know.
My missus is a trust person. She feels success when people can trust her so she does everything she can to please them. She is never late for work and she is always covering shifts. Basically if I say I am going to do something then I better do it otherwise I am letting her down and she feels that differently to how I would.
A couple of my workmates are contributors. They need to be heard. Now that I understand this I need to be aware of how I deal with their input. I cant just say no to things and that its best for me to rework their idea in a way that they feel like they came up with it.
I’m pretty sure that a previous workmate had the same why as me because he understood that stories need to have reasons otherwise they don’t make sense.
